Someone once told me that your reputation is what people think about you, but your character is who you really are. It doesn’t matter what people think about you, it matters who you are.
So how do we become someone we can be proud of.
I’m not sure, but a good start would be to follow through. Follow through with what you say you are going to do. If you say you’re going to show up, then show up. If you say you’re going to work out then work out. If you say you’re going to help out a friend, help out a friend. If you say you’re going to stop drinking or whatever your vice is, then take the steps you need to so you can stop.
If you give your word and you don’t follow through, then your word means absolutely nothing. We all screw up. We all say stuff with intentions to succeed, but it’s when you give your word with no intention of following through. When you let someone count on you just to leave them waiting.
It’s easy to say one thing and do another. It’s easy to not show up when you say you’re going to. Its easy to make excuses. It’s easy to justify it. It’s easy to follow the same toxic pattern you’ve always followed.
What’s hard is to show up when you’re worn out. It’s hard to stop drinking when it’s all you think about. It’s hard to help your friend when you have so much going on yourself. It’s hard to work out and get healthy when you’re exhausted. It’s hard.
But it makes you who you are. It makes you better. Your word means everything, and it should mean enough to you that when you give it—you follow through. You do what you say you’re going to do.
You can’t have healthy meaningful relationships if you don’t keep your word. You can’t have meaningful relationships if you can’t be trusted, and how sad would that be. We thrive on connections and you can’t connect with people when you’re not honest.
You can’t expect to have fulfilling relationships when you’re not keeping your word. You can’t expect to have amazing friendships when you’re not a good friend. You can’t expect to have a beautiful marriage when you only care about your needs. You can’t expect to have a wholesome family when you don’t put your family first. You can’t expect to be healthy when you’re doing toxic things. You can’t expect to live a fulfilling life when you’re not taking the steps to be better.
It all comes down to do what you say you’re going to do. Be someone you wish you had. Be the spouse you want to have. Be the friend you have always wanted. Be the parent your kids deserve to have. Show up when you say you’re going to show up. Try to be better than you were yesterday and take care of yourself. Help other people when they need help and pick them up when they fall down.
You don’t want to look back and wish you did. You don’t want to lose everything before you realize what you had. You don’t want to waste the time you won’t always have.
So just do what you say you’re going to do.